Many people who look for dates online are looking for that long term relationship that is going to lead to more. However, there are just as many people who make a habit out of looking for online dates without ever taking it to the next level. These professional daters never plan on settling down and enjoy the thrill of dating a large number of people for the fun of it. Although this can be fun for a time being it can also lead to an obsession with online dating that is unhealthy for everyone.
There are several ways that you can determine if you’re a professional dater who is just online to have fun. One sure fire way to rate your obsession with online dating is if you find yourself ending dates early so that you can hurry home to check for new messages from other people. How can you enjoy your current date if you’re already looking for the next one? Another way to tell if you’re a professional dater is if you have a hard time choosing between a second date with someone you’ve already met or someone who is entirely new.
Professional daters live for the next date without ever fully paying attention to the date that they are on. This can lead to disappointment and frustration if you’re never satisfied with any date that you’re on.
Friday, March 5, 2010
What People Are Looking For
At this point, you have a pretty great profile happening for you. That’s the foundation of your online dating adventure hands down. Now, we need to take a minute to talk about what others are looking for in online dating partners across the board.
No matter who you are, you are looking for someone that is just like you.
In other words, people are looking for normal people. There is no one out there that is looking to hook up with someone that is too complex, too busy, too overwhelming, or someone that is too above them.
Sure, every guy says they want that hot model with all of the best figures, but the bottom line is that they are really looking for someone that is more normal that happens to be pretty.
How can this be? Doesn’t everyone think about looks first in this world?
In reality, people are looking more for those that are normal and just like them because they do not want to feel or end up being rejected. We all fear rejection and at the level of online dating, it is the same.
Think about all the times that you have gone out to the bar or other areas and thought, “She’s pretty, I would never have a chance with her.” Or other such comments. For that reason, girls and guys out there should keep in mind that their profile and their pictures in the profile should be, beyond everything else normal.
Don’t try to make yourself look like a supermodel because you end up looking fake.
Don’t try to increase your importance by saying that you have a different job than you do.
Don’t say you have special characteristics when you really do not.
People are looking for other normal people.
Your important tip here is that if you wish to have someone email you or contact you, you should come across as a normal person that is happy and positive. That’s going to reel them in. But,not just in the way of your profile and your pictures, but throughout online dating.
Here’s what we mean. Once you actually get into the dating scene, you will find that there are going to be opportunities to chat with others. In short, you will wan tot come across as being able to talk to anyone in the right manner.
Most commonly, people will respond to you through an email. Or, even better, you will respond to them in an email. You may find some will instant message you as well. Any of these methods is fine and perfect as long as you keep your first impression high.
No matter who you are, you are looking for someone that is just like you.
In other words, people are looking for normal people. There is no one out there that is looking to hook up with someone that is too complex, too busy, too overwhelming, or someone that is too above them.
Sure, every guy says they want that hot model with all of the best figures, but the bottom line is that they are really looking for someone that is more normal that happens to be pretty.
How can this be? Doesn’t everyone think about looks first in this world?
In reality, people are looking more for those that are normal and just like them because they do not want to feel or end up being rejected. We all fear rejection and at the level of online dating, it is the same.
Think about all the times that you have gone out to the bar or other areas and thought, “She’s pretty, I would never have a chance with her.” Or other such comments. For that reason, girls and guys out there should keep in mind that their profile and their pictures in the profile should be, beyond everything else normal.
Don’t try to make yourself look like a supermodel because you end up looking fake.
Don’t try to increase your importance by saying that you have a different job than you do.
Don’t say you have special characteristics when you really do not.
People are looking for other normal people.
Your important tip here is that if you wish to have someone email you or contact you, you should come across as a normal person that is happy and positive. That’s going to reel them in. But,not just in the way of your profile and your pictures, but throughout online dating.
Here’s what we mean. Once you actually get into the dating scene, you will find that there are going to be opportunities to chat with others. In short, you will wan tot come across as being able to talk to anyone in the right manner.
Most commonly, people will respond to you through an email. Or, even better, you will respond to them in an email. You may find some will instant message you as well. Any of these methods is fine and perfect as long as you keep your first impression high.
Find The Right
There are many online dating websites and each of them offers something unique and different than the next. If you find yourself dealing with the wrong site, you may find yourself wasting your time.
Since time is important to most of us, we want to give you some tips to help you to find the right place to date on the web. You may not realize it, but you are probably going to find yourself with several options.
First, think about who you are and who you would like to meet. Now, determine what the best online dating website is for you.
Who Are You?
Some online dating sites are set up based on what things such as function as well as popularity. Many of the big online dating sites do offer benefits of being able to allow you to meet a wide range of people. If you are looking for someone special, though, you may find yourself facing a bit more trouble with these sites.
Instead of selecting just any online dating site, if you do have special characteristics that you are interested in, make sure you venture to websites that cater to just that.
For example, there are some very popular websites set up for online dating that offer their pitch to those of a specific race or religion. If you are interested in only finding Jewish people to date or you really only want to find an Asian person, these sites can help you to bring you closer to your goal. If you do have a specific preference, using these sites is fine. Yet, keep something in mind.
The number of people that visit an online dating website is also an important thing. If the site only has a handful of people on it, your chances of finding someone that fits with you perfectly are going to be hard. In other words, your goal should be to find a website that is both popular enough as well as specific enough for any specific characteristics that you are interested in doing.
Since time is important to most of us, we want to give you some tips to help you to find the right place to date on the web. You may not realize it, but you are probably going to find yourself with several options.
First, think about who you are and who you would like to meet. Now, determine what the best online dating website is for you.
Who Are You?
Some online dating sites are set up based on what things such as function as well as popularity. Many of the big online dating sites do offer benefits of being able to allow you to meet a wide range of people. If you are looking for someone special, though, you may find yourself facing a bit more trouble with these sites.
Instead of selecting just any online dating site, if you do have special characteristics that you are interested in, make sure you venture to websites that cater to just that.
For example, there are some very popular websites set up for online dating that offer their pitch to those of a specific race or religion. If you are interested in only finding Jewish people to date or you really only want to find an Asian person, these sites can help you to bring you closer to your goal. If you do have a specific preference, using these sites is fine. Yet, keep something in mind.
The number of people that visit an online dating website is also an important thing. If the site only has a handful of people on it, your chances of finding someone that fits with you perfectly are going to be hard. In other words, your goal should be to find a website that is both popular enough as well as specific enough for any specific characteristics that you are interested in doing.
Pros And Cons
You have a good idea of what the pros and the cons of online dating are right?
Pros:
You get to meet others from around the world when it is convenient to you. You get to find that right person for you without having to deal with the bar scene or with blind
dates.
The pressure is lower as emails are easier than phone calls.
You can find people online that are just like you, that already possess the qualities that you are after. No more dealing with situations where you meet people that are no where near someone you are interested in.
You get to handle online dating the way that you want to.
It's safer. There are more possibilities. Those are just a few of the benefits that are out there when it comes to online dating. Yet, there are some things that are not necessarily good things.
Cons:
You are not seeing these individuals in person for the first time.
You may not be able to meet them locally for a while if they do not live near you.
You have to count on what they tell you or provide about them in their profile is actually true.
It's scary to take that first step.
You have to pay for a membership to meet others. Those are just a few of the different cons that you may be facing. Of course, you should take into consideration the fact that your potential cons are not listed here. Nevertheless, our next tip is what will help you to get the most out of online dating.
Analyzing The Good And The Bad
Each time that there is a negative comment in your mind about online dating, figure out the
benefits it can offer.
For example, one of the problems that many have is paying for a membership. While no one
likes doing that, think about it this way. If you pay for a membership, you don't have to pay for
all of those drinks or dinners with others that are people you didn't want to meet. It is more
affordable, actually, to work with people that you have already determined are right for you.
Another thing people say about online dating is that they just don't want to take that first step and contact the other person. No problem. Later on, we will dedicate a chapter to learning how to converse with others for the first time. And, we will show you how you can actually make this something that is beneficial to you.
Pros:
You get to meet others from around the world when it is convenient to you. You get to find that right person for you without having to deal with the bar scene or with blind
dates.
The pressure is lower as emails are easier than phone calls.
You can find people online that are just like you, that already possess the qualities that you are after. No more dealing with situations where you meet people that are no where near someone you are interested in.
You get to handle online dating the way that you want to.
It's safer. There are more possibilities. Those are just a few of the benefits that are out there when it comes to online dating. Yet, there are some things that are not necessarily good things.
Cons:
You are not seeing these individuals in person for the first time.
You may not be able to meet them locally for a while if they do not live near you.
You have to count on what they tell you or provide about them in their profile is actually true.
It's scary to take that first step.
You have to pay for a membership to meet others. Those are just a few of the different cons that you may be facing. Of course, you should take into consideration the fact that your potential cons are not listed here. Nevertheless, our next tip is what will help you to get the most out of online dating.
Analyzing The Good And The Bad
Each time that there is a negative comment in your mind about online dating, figure out the
benefits it can offer.
For example, one of the problems that many have is paying for a membership. While no one
likes doing that, think about it this way. If you pay for a membership, you don't have to pay for
all of those drinks or dinners with others that are people you didn't want to meet. It is more
affordable, actually, to work with people that you have already determined are right for you.
Another thing people say about online dating is that they just don't want to take that first step and contact the other person. No problem. Later on, we will dedicate a chapter to learning how to converse with others for the first time. And, we will show you how you can actually make this something that is beneficial to you.
Online Dating Success
Online dating is something that anyone can do, but not everyone will do it in a successful
manner. Let’s think of this as building a business. If you want to be successful at your
business, you have to work with it from the beginning, nourish it throughout its hard moments
and then know how to make your mark.
In online dating, if you would like to be successful, you need to start off right, build your profile in the right manner and then secure the final and lasting rewards out there. You may not realize it but there are some pretty good tips and tricks out there that can help you to be successful at online dating.
Throughout this article you will see those tips and tricks offered to you. Yet, before we can tell
you how to take your online dating experience to success, we need to map out where we are
going.
Your Goals
The first thing that you need to do is to make goals. What should you include in those goals?
Ask yourself these questions.
What am I looking to achieve during my online dating experience?
What am I hoping will be the method that I do that?
Who am I looking for specifically?
What am I willing to do to make it happen?
Can I dedicate some time to making it come together?
When you ask yourself these questions, jot down your answers. You will want to come back
and refer to them later. Why do we ask them? Developing goals for online dating is essential.
In fact, it is your first tip. Without detailed goals, you will not do all that it takes to be successful.
If you do not have goals, you probably will not spend enough time on your profile. If you do not
have goals, you probably will not take the time to seek out others. And, if you do not have the
right goals in place, you won’t take that all important first step of calling on someone that you
are interested in.
After you have determined what your goals are, next determine what you will do to meet them.
Here are the first things you need to commit to in order to be successful with online dating.
manner. Let’s think of this as building a business. If you want to be successful at your
business, you have to work with it from the beginning, nourish it throughout its hard moments
and then know how to make your mark.
In online dating, if you would like to be successful, you need to start off right, build your profile in the right manner and then secure the final and lasting rewards out there. You may not realize it but there are some pretty good tips and tricks out there that can help you to be successful at online dating.
Throughout this article you will see those tips and tricks offered to you. Yet, before we can tell
you how to take your online dating experience to success, we need to map out where we are
going.
Your Goals
The first thing that you need to do is to make goals. What should you include in those goals?
Ask yourself these questions.
What am I looking to achieve during my online dating experience?
What am I hoping will be the method that I do that?
Who am I looking for specifically?
What am I willing to do to make it happen?
Can I dedicate some time to making it come together?
When you ask yourself these questions, jot down your answers. You will want to come back
and refer to them later. Why do we ask them? Developing goals for online dating is essential.
In fact, it is your first tip. Without detailed goals, you will not do all that it takes to be successful.
If you do not have goals, you probably will not spend enough time on your profile. If you do not
have goals, you probably will not take the time to seek out others. And, if you do not have the
right goals in place, you won’t take that all important first step of calling on someone that you
are interested in.
After you have determined what your goals are, next determine what you will do to meet them.
Here are the first things you need to commit to in order to be successful with online dating.